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Power and control: the defining feature of domestic violence
Not all violence in marriage is domestic violence as defined by the law, nor is all violence in marriage the focus for the Hear Believe...
Mar 4, 20173 min read


What does domestic violence feel like? How destructive can it be?
The Pastor’s Wife is a 2011 biographical film for Television that is a based on a true crime book of the same title. It is currently...
Mar 2, 20171 min read


When we get the response wrong
Religious teachings can be a roadblock to stopping domestic violence. It does not have to be so. At the Hear Believe Act Project we have...
Feb 27, 20174 min read


"Surely it is time to move on"
Survivors invariably say that family members, friends in the ecclesia and out of it and the abuser tell them, “Surely it is time to move...
Feb 27, 20173 min read


“I wouldn’t want my kids around him”
Understanding issues of parenting in families where men use domestic violence. This is a guest post on the Hear Believe Act Blog by...
Feb 27, 20174 min read


Abuse has long-term effects
In a recent blog post we talked about the emotional and psychological impact of abuse on survivors. We mentioned that it is a long-term...
Feb 20, 20174 min read


What about the children?
Children are at high risk in domestic abuse situations. They suffer enormously and particularly emotionally. This suffering is often...
Feb 15, 20174 min read


Counselling and recovery for abusers
Professional counselling to help abusers recognise and understand the real nature of the abusive behaviours they choose to use is an...
Feb 12, 20175 min read


Counselling and recovery for victims
The Hear Believe Act Project believes that professional counselling has an important role to play in helping survivors recover from the...
Feb 11, 20175 min read


Understand why victims don’t report abuse to the ecclesia.
We hold dearly to a dangerous misconception - that our ecclesias are easy to approach about a problem. I have had arranging brothers say...
Feb 9, 20174 min read
What can we do about domestic abuse? Show leadership.
All the brothers of the Hear Believe Act Project are arranging brothers or have been. They freely acknowledge that they have made...
Feb 8, 20175 min read


What is domestic abuse: men can be victims too
The Hear Believe Act Project is about encouraging and exhorting us all to open up the discussion of domestic abuse in the Christadelphian...
Feb 7, 20175 min read


What not to say: "Why haven’t you left him already?"
Survivors and victims of domestic violence suffer repeated tidal waves of fear-inducing threats and abuse. Unless we have been in this...
Feb 5, 20173 min read


What not to say: why did you marry them?
The most abhorrent thing about this statement is the implicit assumption that it is the victim who made the mistake. It is saying that...
Feb 4, 20173 min read


What not to say: "But all marriages have problems"
I guess all couples do have problems, but this “truth” neglects to mention that domestic abuse is not just another marriage problem. If...
Feb 3, 20175 min read


What not to say: "What did you do to cause it?"
One of the common themes of domestic violence is that the power and control ‘plays’ of the abuser are built on a false claim - that the...
Feb 2, 20173 min read


What not to say: "I understand how you feel"
Survivors and victims of domestic abuse constantly tell the Hear Believe Act Project how they feel. But we cannot presume to know how...
Feb 1, 20174 min read


Hear Believe Act: one month update - please tell your friends and your ecclesia
** Please consider sharing this update on your timeline ** It is has been one month since we published Hear Believe Act - a discussion...
Jan 31, 20174 min read


What can we do about domestic abuse? Avoiding revictimisation - “Go and sin not”
It was the Scribes and Pharisees that brought before our Lord a woman caught in the very act of adultery. We know the story well, but...
Jan 31, 20174 min read


What can we do about domestic abuse? See it for what it is
Making changes to tackle the problem of domestic abuse in our midst needs to start with understanding and accepting the reality of sin....
Jan 29, 20172 min read
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