Survivors invariably say that family members, friends in the ecclesia and out of it and the abuser tell them, “Surely it is time to move...

In a recent blog post we talked about the emotional and psychological impact of abuse on survivors. We mentioned that it is a long-term...

Children are at high risk in domestic abuse situations. They suffer enormously and particularly emotionally. This suffering is often...

Professional counselling to help abusers recognise and understand the real nature of the abusive behaviours they choose to use is an...

All the brothers of the Hear Believe Act Project are arranging brothers or have been. They freely acknowledge that they have made...

I guess all couples do have problems, but this “truth” neglects to mention that domestic abuse is not just another marriage problem. If...

One of the common themes of domestic violence is that the power and control ‘plays’ of the abuser are built on a false claim - that the...

Survivors and victims of domestic abuse constantly tell the Hear Believe Act Project how they feel. But we cannot presume to know how...

It was the Scribes and Pharisees that brought before our Lord a woman caught in the very act of adultery. We know the story well, but...

Making changes to tackle the problem of domestic abuse in our midst needs to start with understanding and accepting the reality of sin....

Christ said, “by their fruits you will know them”. We have not always discerned the fruits. In hindsight perhaps there was a detectable...

We should detest pride. We should never allow derogatory language or attitudes toward others to be accepted within our culture. In all...

It is the essence of true religion to care for the fatherless and widows and preparing our ecclesias to do this must be a priority for...

The difficulty men have in making judgements is highlighted by Isaiah’s description of Messiah with the implicit contrast to human...

Domestic abuse remains hidden by cycles of abuse with phases of ‘reconciliation’ and calm. In the reconciliation phase the abuser...

Domestic abuse is a gross sin of misuse of power. This power is established by manipulation and control. This manipulation and control is...

A person who has disclosed they are abused has climbed a mountain of shame against an ill-wind: the belief they will neither be believed...

Variations on this myth are all too common. People are heard to say, “I can appreciate how it happens. She would get on my nerves too”....

Christ’s disciples are called on to be the Good Samaritan even if in personal danger. Those helping the victim should expect personal...

When weighing up a decision to leave an abuser, one balancing consideration (of many) is if and how the father is fulfilling his...